In 2010, my family and I were in north central Ohio where I was pastoring a small church. We didn’t have a copy machine so I was going to Office Depot weekly to have the bulletins printed for our Sunday services.
I was in the van with my daughter, who at that time was around 8 years old. we were listening to music from a Barbie movie soundtrack and I was doing my best to play along. Printing 50 bulletins was a small job that shouldn’t have taken a long time to finish but for some reason they were not a priority.
I didn’t want to keep bothering the staff so I would only go in every 30 minutes or so to politely ask if the job was done yet. This went on for a couple hours until I finally broke. I’d had enough and was going to give them a piece of my mind. I marched in and demanded my flash drive back so I could drive over to the more empathetic and competent people of Staples.
I was unprepared for what would happen next. Instead of being threatened by my intense frowning, the girl behind the counter started laughing at me. In my shock I looked down and, to my horror, discovered that I was still wearing a pink plastic diamond studded Barbie necklace while holding a pink plastic diamond studded Barbie scepter.
There are things about ourselves that we’re blind to and the only way to find out is to ask honest questions from those that know us best. Here’s a tough but excellent question you can ask someone that knows you to give you some perspective about your blind spots.
Psalms 51:2-3, 6 – “Wash away my guilt and cleanse me from my sin. For I am conscious of my rebellion, and my sin is always before me… Surely You desire integrity in the inner self, and You teach me wisdom deep within.”
If you have a relationship with God through Jesus, you have the Holy Spirit inside you. Jesus called Him the counselor who will “guide you into all truth” in John 16:13. The first person you should ask to reveal to you your blind spots is God the Holy Spirit. He will guide you into the truth that you need about yourself. Of course, there may be things that God has no intention in revealing about yourself because living with limitations is core to His teaching.
Seeking to know more about ourselves is good if used for God’s glory and purposes. Only wanting to know more about ourselves for selfish reasons has the reverse effect. You’ll have more knowledge about yourself but not the kind that translates into wisdom.
Don’t think to long about your motive though because it can rob you of good motivation as well. Walk up to the counter of the people that know you most and don’t try and hide the Barbie scepter as you ask them to help you understand what it’s like to be on the opposite side of you.
I dare you.
You’ll be glad you did.