Disclaimer: Some will view this post as a shameless and tacky approach of engaging someone in unwanted spiritual conversation. This is not my intent. I’m unapologetically Christian but I realize that not everyone who reads my blog is not. This post is written to other Christians who want to learn how to better engage others in genuine conversation without the hard sell of bullish evangelism.
With that said, we’ve all had those awkward moments where we’re caught in the middle of a discussion either with a person we don’t know or someone that we do. Inviting someone to church this week may land you in a spot like this. What is that one tool not to be overlooked when inviting someone to your church this Easter?
Some people can fake it and talk their way out of State Prison while others suffer through an anxious question and answer format. It’s almost like social skydiving! If you find yourself in that position with someone you’re inviting to your church, here’s an easy way to speak to people using much needed, and often underestimated, small talk. Believe it or not, small talk is essential in social interactions.
I recommend the acronym F.O.R.D.
Family — You can seldom go wrong with asking someone about their family. An example might be, “Are you or your family native to this area?”, “Where are you and your family from?”, or “Do you have a big family?”
Occupation — Asking someone about what they do for a living allows the person to talk about what they excel in. Prepare to hear an earful if they hate their job.
Recreation — This question gives insight into their hobbies. Examples include questions like, “What do you like to do in your spare time?”, or “Do you have any projects you’re working on?”
Dreams — Most people don’t have a good answer for this one but it still gives the person an opportunity to talk about themselves. An example of this may be “What’s on your bucket list?”
What are some other ideas you have in engaging people in genuine conversation? Leave a comment below and thanks for stopping by!
He is Risen!
Cited: Lloyd, Craig. "Use the FORD Technique to Make Small Talk Easier." Lifehacker. June 24, 2013. https://lifehacker.com/use-the-ford-technique-to-make-small-talk-easier-5937348.